| | As most of you know, I've been dating here and there. Primarily good, upstanding Christian men, right? That's what a good Christian girl is supposed to do, right? But just recently, I decided to date this guy that is not a believer with the understanding that it is temporary as he is a foreign exchange student and will leave the country in just a few months. I enjoy his company and he has an excellent combination of humour and intelligence. Anyway, we had the DTR before we even started to date and in that discussion I outlined my boundaries for physical affection. He said he understood and could abide by those rules. Considering every single guy to which I have ever expressed these rules has always tried to push that line, I had reasonable doubts about that, especially since he didn't have a love of Christ to help temper that urge. Here's what I found: Foreign Guy is so much more respectful of my boundaries! I'm completely floored.
Here's what I realized:
(1) Because I have never experienced such respect, I didn't sincerely believe it existed. So therefore found it difficult to expect it.
(2) And if a nonbeliever can do it, what are Christian guys thinking?
I find it exhausting to constantly be on guard, like I am on border patrol, monitoring for an immigrant attempting to cross the line by any means possible. To constantly have to say no and remind them of what we talked about the previous 236,000 times gets a little wearisome. I feel like I have had an awakening - a new understanding of what could be. I feel like Foreign Guy has better prepared me for future relationships. Thanks, Foreign Guy!
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| | Posted 9/28/2006 2:08 PM - 27 Views - 8 eProps - 4 comments
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